A silicon-based negative electrode material, a preparation method therefor and a use thereof in a lithium-ion battery. The silicon-based negative electrode material comprises a silicon-based active material and a composite layer that coats the surface of the silicon-based active material and composes a flexible polymer, flake graphite and a conductive material. The method comprises: 1) dissolving the flexible polymer in a solvent; 2) adding the flake graphite and the conductive material into the flexible polymer solution obtained in step 1) while stirring; 3) adding an anti-solvent to the mixed coating solution obtained in step 2) and stirring; 4) adding the silicon-based active material to the supersaturated mixed coating solution obtained in step 3) while stirring, and then stirring and separating; and 5) carrying out thermal treatment to obtain the silicon-based negative electrode material.